| Letter from a Stepmother |
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One of the most difficult things I have faced as a stepmother would
have to be learning to know where to draw my boundaries with my
stepson, his mother and my husband. All three of the above had different expectations of me and the role I should play as a stepmother. For the first five years of my marriage, I tried to be everything they all expected of me. Full time wife, stepmother on call (available, anytime, anywhere), and also full time mother to three other new born children as well as an older daughter from a previous marriage. The crunch came when I could no longer continue pleasing everyone else anymore without having a nervous breakdown. It was then that I made the decision to ask a few things from them in an effort to set some reasonable boundaries, and to be truthful about what I was comfortable with concerning access arrangements etc, in my role as stepmother. Now I am no longer resentful toward my husband, his ex-wife and my stepson as they are now listening to me and I no longer feel like I am in the centre of a triangle. This situation was not resolved easily and took much confrontation and counselling. |
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