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- Role of the Christian Stepfather
- The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce
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- Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way
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|Timesharing in a Post-Divorce Relationship|
"In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself." - Laurence Sterne
Divorce is on many mental health professionals' top list of the most stressful events that can occur in someone's life - ranking right up there with losing a job, a death of a family member and moving. The situation is bound to be stressful at times but how does one minimize the stress involved in co-parenting?
For Every End, a Beginning
It Is What It Is.
I'm not one to be blasé about anything but, to an extent, that's what we have to do as parents after a divorce where children are involved - put on our big boy and big girl undies and deal with it. Ideally a family stays together. When that's not possible, it may be best to split up. It's not great, it's not good, it's not really even ok. It is what it is. When divorce is inevitable and you're better off splitting up, what can you do to minimize the impact of the divorce and time-sharing on you and your children?
Different, Yet the Same
Onward and Upward
About the worst thing any (especially non-residential) parent can do during a transition from nuclear family to single parent is to sit and wallow in your own misery while your children are away. You'll likely discover a new feeling of loneliness that you hadn't felt in the past. This is completely normal! Especially early on I learned to loathe Monday, Tuesday & Thursday nights. Summer breaks were especially trying when I would go entire weeks without being able to see my son. They were torturous to me and I was at risk of sinking into a depression if I didn't do something about how I was dealing with my solitude. I was alone in my thoughts far too many hours a day. Something had to give. You must (MUST) deal with those feelings whether it be alone or with personal or professional assistance from the outside. What you do with all of that newly-found freedom and down time and how you respond and deal with those feelings may determine your success or failure as a parent and even your future happiness. The stakes are that high.
did my best to see my situation as an opportunity rather than let it
drag me down. I suddenly had hours of free time per week that I hadn't
enjoyed since, well, since my teenage years! Do not squander this
opportunity! Grab yourself by those bootstraps and do something
positive! Take the time to better yourself by going back to school,
start a productive, creative and/or self-fulfilling hobby (like writing)
and generally keep yourself busy.
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